When can I call you "my friend" ?

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Sometime ago one of my friends she was telling me this situation that happened to her. She was hanging out for several months with a group of people she met in her new school. They went for drinks, movies, parties, walks, home invites – all those fun things. In the group she got more close to one of the girls sharing all the trendy little secrets. One day that girl she was very sad and she closed herself in one room and was crying. My friend wanted to know what happened, so she went after her to console her. She was pushed away with a very rude saying: “Why should I tell you my private feelings? The fact that we hang out for drinks doesn`t mean we are friends! We are not! We are just acquaintances!”
My friend assumed was just something she said being nervous, so when that girl was in a better mood she opened the discussion. Wrong! “Get this well in your head! We are not friends!”

I was in a similar situation some years ago…I knew this person for many years, but due to the distance we could not consider ourselves very close friends – like best friends. Still, we shared many common things, we shared feelings and secrets and we were enjoying our time together whenever we got the chance. We were opened to each other, we had that mutual understanding that you have only with special people.
One day that person did something quite inappropriate. As a sign of our so called by me friendship I asked for explanations. Wrong! “We are not friends! I`m sorry I ever created you that impression! We were just talking!” I don`t remember exactly how the conversation continued I just remember I was left with a bitter taste and every other time I was even named friend or made feel I was a friend by that person I didn`t know how to take it.

I tried to see if I was ever put on the other side - to be considered a friend and not feel like one. Maybe. But, feel is not the same with yell in someone’s face “you are not my friend”. You just don’t rely too much on that person – when in need, or you don`t share your secrets. When someone calls you a friend it gives you a great honor. It means that person trusts you and cares about you and your feelings and shares with you his/ her intimate feelings and thoughts. Even if you don`t share the same trust or feelings, at least you can respect what the other person feels. I`m happy when someone calls me their friend it means to me that person appreciates me.

When do YOU call a person a friend? Does friendship implies certain responsibilities? Or you just take it as it is? What do you do if a person calls you a friend and you don`t feel like it? Do you have certain expectations from someone you call a friend?
Are there any boundaries to friendship? Probably yes. Especially if it comes to a man – woman friendship or age difference or cultural values or…I don`t know, you name it!

This post has no particular purpose…I just hope you`ll analyze this on your side. (it may be a continuation to this…the opposite)
And from my side – many thanks to those that consider me their friend – in a way or another ;).

Note: I do not own the copyright for the images

Sometimes...

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“Sometimes I wish I could stop time, chop it and put it in a box and when I need it; take out a piece or two to complete what is missing. But, this way the day will be longer and me more tired when the sun goes down…Or maybe I should put those hours in the night and sleep longer.
Sometimes I wish I could stop all my life pack it carefully in boxes and give it away like it`s not mine. But what would I be left with? A new beginning or the end of everything? I would have no memories and all this joy that I share with you.
Sometimes I just want to leave everything behind, hide myself in a grotto and there; live the rest of my life. But what about my friends and my family? Would I ever see them again? Would they accept my choice? Would I see you again? How about all the flashing screens brought by technology, how about all this tasty junk food, all the shopping choice and all the social networking?
Sometimes I wish I could forget who I am and wonder around like an alien to this planet. But would the humans accept me? Or would I be violent to them as I know anything about them. Would I feel that I don`t belong?
Sometimes I wish I could bring peace where is war and war where is peace. Would I destroy the natural course of things?”
Sometimes I want to reverse time and replay a moment, but just a moment…not the entire course of my life.”

“Why do you want to be something that you are not if you are happy?” asked the fairy.
“Why do you want all this powers if you are not sure how to use them?”
The boy stood there, on the fallen tree trunk his eyes penetrating the texture of the sky. He turned his head and looked in the eyes of his vision – a beautiful young lady wearing a long gown. He snapped his fingers and got up.
“I don`t have time for this crap! Why am I even talking to you?”

On his way out of the park her voice resonated in his head.
“Because you want to escape! Because you are prisoner of your reality! Because…”
“Shut out!” he screamed out load…and he thought his heart was sealed forever.

Statement

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For some unknown reason...some people tend to think that this blog is about me, more exactly my thoughts and feelings.

I would like to make it clear that this blog is not about me and the feelings, ideas, thoughts and the information expressed here may not express my personal opinion on the subject. Even if certain texts are reflected at the first person or second person - this doesn`t mean I am referring to myself or to a certain you, especially if the material appears under quotes or under creative writing.
What is more challenging for a writer than to write at the first person and express feelings that are the opposite of his/her personal view? In the same time the use of "I" or "you" in certain texts makes the message seem more personalized.

On the other side, the purpose of this blog is not to address someone personally -but a general audience (sorry for those of you that are my friends I`m trying to keep this as objective as possible). And as the message implies -just to make people think more on a certain subject!

And not to confound expression of ideas with ownership of material.Unless otherwise stated, under source, note or link - all materials in this blog are my creation.

All documents on this blog are owned by Marnissa Dieanu, alias Serenia, except where noted. Any further reproduction of this material by you may be the subject of copyright protection. Permission is required to copy, download or use any text or photographs.

Thank you all for your understanding

What`s in this box?

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From a bold way of advertising a product to an interesting way of raising awareness.
The first action is definitely getting some attention due to the semi - covered nudity...or just because it takes place publicly. To promote the new Palmolive Nutra.fruit a girl takes a shower in the middle of the street...in Moscow.



The second video has a more peaceful theme ...or not due to the bloody aspect. Essentially, the idea is different... Raising awareness... Hemophilia day!
Note: Pic by CBS

To catch people`s attention, Bucharest has decided to color the water of one major big fountains of the city in...red. Hehe, don`t worry it was not a Vampire`s party!



Any other cool ideas?

Learn from the past

Accidentally I found a book and for the moment I touched its covers I knew I wanted to read it. I`m usually not attracted by this type of subject - just because its sad. But, this time - some how I just couldn`t. I abandoned the book I was reading and I started reading - I Have Lived A Thousand Years by Livia Bitton-Jackson. I couldn`t let it from my hands till I finished it.

The book is simple as writing, and a master piece on the subject of Holocaust. The author - a survivor of the Holocaust - tells her story as a 13 years old child in different death camps, including the famous Auschwitz. The book is shocking because it`s not just a story, it`s a reality- and it`s a must read!

I would recommend this book to every generation! I would recommend it just because we must learn from our mistakes - to be more tolerant and to avoid war. I would recommend it to every spoiled child to see what means survival.

Livia Bitton-Jackson has been a messenger on the subject of Jews in the Nazi time, but what happens when there will be no messengers? We should always tell their story as a proof of atrocities that took place and must be avoided.

If want another story on the same subject - read Anne Frank Diary - another teen - this time a victim of the inhuman war. The movie based on her diary and real documents is available here -

I know it doesn`t seem to be nothing fun in this - but it`s something that we should know and acknowledge.

To swim or not to swim in this pool

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Leandro’s pool is not just another pool - but has something special...it`s fake.
The pool is part of the 21st Century Museum of Contemporary Art in Kanazawa - the Western Capital of Japan.
You can walk into the exhibit and down some stairs into a blue room with the bottom part of some stairs and a roof of glass with water on top.
Upstairs, outside the room, you can look into a pool and see…people walking in the blue room!
A nifty bit of engineering by Leandro Erlich.



Leandro Erlich, an Argentinian artist, constructs installations or complete physical worlds which the individual enters. He uses whatever building materials necessary including mirrors and projections to create forms of reality.