Monday, December 10, 2012

Ikaria and another lifestyle


Icaria, also spelled Ikaria (Greek: Ικαρία), is a Greek island in the Aegean Sea, 10 nautical miles (19 km) southwest of Samos. It derived its name from Icarus, the son of Daedalus in Greek mythology, who fell into the sea nearby.

The main story told about Icarus is his attempt to escape from Crete by means of wings that his father constructed from feathers and wax. He ignored instructions not to fly too close to the sun, and the melting wax caused him to fall into the sea where he drowned. As Icarus tried to defeat the laws of the time and was lead by high ambition, and ascensionism, the people of today’s Ikaria seem to follow into his footsteps without even knowing it.
Inhabitants of Ikaria reach the age of 90 years 2.5 times more than Americans did.
Dan Buettner reporter and explorer interested in longevity around the globe discovered this place in the Greek peninsula where people with the simplest lifestyle defeat the laws of aging of today’s world. But what is fascinating about these people is not only what they eat, but their entire lifestyle.
"Here the world is waking up late; they always wake up late and rest during the day. They bear no clock at hand and no clock on the island is working properly. When you invite someone to lunch they can come at ten in the morning or at six at night. We simply do not care what time it is. Here we do not care about money and wealth. When you celebrate religious or cultural events, people use money to buy wine and food. If money remains after that they give them to the poor. Ikaria is not a place to use the word "I". Ikaria is an island that uses only the word "we" (Ilias Leriadis doctor, one of the few doctors on the island of Ikaria.)
In just a few words a local synthesis the amazing lifestyle of this population. They take everything as it comes, simply with no stress, they do nothing more than doing what they like disregarding money and time. They probably have nothing more than the basic things to live, but they have the warmth of their community and the power of nature.

To read more about this universe here – one article on New York Times, one on Business Insider or  Dan Buettner Speaking

What fascinates me about this community is their simplicity compared to all the material things that embellish our lives…and then it come to a simple thing…What if…?



“For people to adopt a healthy lifestyle they have to live in an ecosystem."
For example, Americans are trying to eat healthy, but "processed food industry spends over $ 4 billion per year to tempt us to consume their products. How can we combat this?" (Dan Buettner reporter and explorer)

So, after all is not about fighting the gravitation of living, is about fighting an entire life style. Good luck with that, especially if you are living in the modern world!

Below are a few Ikarian recipes that may help in improving your lifestyle…
“Longevity” Black Eyed Pea Stew from Ikaria
Serves 2 as a main course and 4 – 6 as a meze
½ pound black eyed peas
½ cup extra virgin Greek olive oil
1 large red onion, finely chopped
2 garlic cloves, finely chopped
1 large, firm ripe tomato, grated or finely chopped
2 teaspoons tomato paste, diluted in ¼ cup water
2 bay leaves
Salt to taste
1 bunch wild fennel or 1 fennel bulb, finely chopped and 1 bunch dill, finely chopped
1. Rinse the black eyed peas in a colander.
2. Heat half the olive oil in a medium pot over medium heat and cook the onion and garlic, stirring, until soft, about 12 minutes. Add the black eyed peas and toss to coat in the oil.
3. Add the tomato, tomato paste and enough water to cover the beans by about an inch. Add the bay leaves. Bring to a boil, reduce heat and simmer until the black eyed peas are about half way cooked. Season with salt. Add the wild fennel. (Note: if wild fennel is unavailable, cook the chopped fennel bulb with the onion and garlic and add the dill in place of the wild fennel.) Continue cooking until the black eyed peas are tender. Remove, pour in remaining raw olive oil and serve.

Taro and Kidney Bean Stew
This dish is an old winter specialty from Ikaria. The recipe is adapted from a small book on Ikarian cooking, published (in Greek) by the community of Kavos Papas, on the south side of the island.
Serves 6
Ingredients
½ pound kidney or mottled beans, soaked overnight
1 bay leaf, cracked
½ cup extra virgin Greek olive oil
2 large red onions
2 garlic cloves, minced
1 large taro root, peeled (use a chef’s knife to remove the tough skin) and cut into ½-inch thick half moons. Cut it down the middle lengthwise then slice.
½ cup chopped canned tomatoes or 1 tablespoon of good quality, preferably sun-dried, tomato paste
½ cup chopped fresh flat-leaf parsley
Salt and pepper
Lemon juice, verjuice, or a  little red wine vinegar to taste
Directions
Drain the beans and place in a large pot with enough water to cover by two inches. Bring to a boil, skim any foam off the top, add the bay leaf, lower the heat and continue cooking for about 35 minutes.
While the beans are cooking, heat 4 tablespoons of olive oil in a heavy nonstick skillet and sauté the onions and garlic until soft and lightly colored, about 8 minutes over medium heat.
Add the taro root slices and sauté for a few minutes, stirring. Local cooks do this to rid the taro of its mucousy texture. Set aside.
Add the taro, onions and garlic to the simmering beans.
Pour in another 3 to 4 tablespoons of olive oil, the tomatoes, salt, and pepper, and simmer for about 1 hour until the stew is densely textured and the taro and beans soft.
Stir in the parsley and adjust the seasoning with additional salt and pepper and either lemon juice, verjuice, or red wine vinegar.

Taro Root Salad with Skordalia
 Serves 6 to 8
Ingredients
1 large taro root, peeled
1 red onion, halved and chopped
1 celery stalk, trimmed and chopped
1 cup chopped fresh flat-leaf parsley or dill
½ cup olive or more, as needed
3 to 4 tablespoons lemon juice or red wine vinegar, to taste
Sea salt and freshly ground black pepper to taste
Directions
Peel the taro root and place in a pot with ample cold water (to cover by 2 inches). Salt the water, bring to a boil, reduce heat and simmer the taro for about 45 minutes to 1 hour, or until fork tender.
Remove with a slotted spoon and stand upright on a cutting board. Cut away the muddy remains of the taro’s peel and discard. Cut the taro in half lengthwise and then into chunks about 1½ inches in size. Place in a large serving bowl.
Add the onion, celery, parsley, olive oil, lemon juice, salt and pepper. Toss carefully.
Serve warm or at room temperature, with classic Greek skordalia (recipe follows).
Skordalia (Garlicky Bread Dip)
Ingredients
4 to 5 2-inch thick slices of sourdough country-style bread,
crusts removed
5 to 7 garlic cloves, peeled
½ to 1 cup extra virgin Greek olive oil
¼  to ⅓  cup red wine vinegar
Salt to taste
Directions
Dampen the bread under the tap and squeeze out the excess moisture.
Place half the garlic and half the bread in a large mortar. Using the pestle, start pounding the mixture, adding salt and olive oil in small amounts, then more bread and garlic, and, again, salt, then olive oil and vinegar, alternating between each in slow, steady streams, until the mixture emulsifies and is a textured paste.

Friday, September 7, 2012

How do you deal with a cheating situation?

Probably not very well…It is very emotional to find out you have been cheated by the person you love and trust, but going through such a situation can be handled quite well if you have a strong character.

Most of people deal with this type of situation even for once in their life. But the way you put things back in their place depends of you. I’m writing this because one of my friends is going through such a period and is very depressed. Is hard to understand why is taking so long to get over…Well, is simple because even if you have a broken heart, you are still in love and you don’t want to let go! The problem is that once one finds you he/she has been cheated is not something expected, is a shock…and it is the shock that is hard to be dealt with.  You don’t have a strategy in place for crisis.
All the situations are replayed, all the words analyzed, you feel weak because you have been played and abandoned. There are two expected outcomes here too:
A. the cheater is apologizing and wants to stay by your side
B. the cheater moves on with the other person.

But, what will happen next is up to you. I have a saying “Deal with every situation as it comes!”
1. Cry – yes it is normal to release your feelings in tears, is better than keep it inside. Seriously, it may affect your heart and brain. But, one very important rule, try not to cry in front of the cheater because he/she will either feel pity for you or disgust. Cry by yourself, with your best friend, with your mom or dad, your brother or sister (if you have a good relationship) - not your ex, an acquaintance or the cheater.
2. Eat. It is very important that even if you are depressed and down you take care of yourself. So, eat something a fruit or whatever you can digest.
3. Sleep! If you tire yourself too much, your brain won’t be able to function properly, you may lose contact with reality and even damage your body functions. If you can’t sleep, go to the pharmacy and ask for an over the counter pill to help you sleep. Try something that contains passiflora or valerian herbs – is natural and will not get an addiction to it if you take it for a few nights.
4. Do not commit suicide! This one is very important. Well, not because I am saying it, but because it won’t solve anything. You are not the only person in the world that has gone through this! Being cheated is not the end of the world, is an experience! It will make you stronger to go through this. The cheater is not the sun, the air, the stars, the water, your heart, your life (even if have called him/ her that way)! It is just a human being – there are billions other out there!
5. Accept the situation! After a good night sleep it is time to understand the situation. Whatever happened happened, is done deal and you can’t change it. You can only move on! First, it is not your fault! It will not help with anything if you blame yourself. It is not the cheater fault. It is not the third party fault! Blaming X or Y won’t help either. It happened because it was a conjuncture of situations and events. Each of you has played a role that brought that situation. Each party has its version of events. So it doesn’t help accusing yourself or others!
6. Analyse! Unfortunately, you still have to go through this part in order to go on. It is very important that you understand what happened and what you should do next. So, going back to A and B – you have to figure out what the cheater wants.
A. if the cheater is apologising and wants to be with you it is important that you have a clear understanding of the events. Do not listen only to his version of events! Ask around – friends, family – you need to get multiple opinions in order to make a good decision. If you have the opportunity, talk also to the third party. I know is hard, and you may be lied to, but you will have that opinion too. Now, put everything together. Take your time. You need to understand if it is worth or not to go on with that person! If the cheater has that in his blood he/she will do it again, if not, as I said – it was just a conjuncture – it may never happen again and you can live happily ever after. But, test him/ her. How? I clearly do not recommend asking someone to hit on him/ her. Do not forgive easily! It is clear you are affected and you need time. Be a little pickier then usual with things. Be colder! Tell them that moving on and still together, you are starting from scratch – so, definitely you guys need to rebuild your relation like dating for the first time. Giving yourself time and giving them time, you can go easier over what happened and fell in love again with that person. If he or she is serious about you – they will do anything to please you.

B. if the cheater moves on with the other person. Well, is clear they have made their decision – it was just hard for them to tell you the truth. Hanging on to such a person is useless. Don’t try to make them change their mind. Is time for war!
1. Improve yourself! The best revenge tactic is to be better than you were in the past. If you have to interact with the cheater again – show them how amazing you are and what they lost.  You have to be more beautiful and more elegant then before. You have to be smarter. So, it’s time to rebuild yourself. Do not fake it! Make it come natural and in time. You will see that this will also bust your confidence and also attract new eyes on you.
2. Defeat! The cruelest tactic is to defeat you love opponent. You are in a situation when you ask yourself why that person was chosen. Is he/she better than you? It actually doesn’t matter! These types of thoughts are not helping you. That person may be way lower than you, it is just hard for you to see. You have to thank that person for recycling for you. He/ she is taking away the trash for you. You are clean now!
3. You don’t need that type of lover around you! The most important cure for a failed relation is to thing how horrible that person was. If he/ she did that to you and didn’t even have the courage to admit it – it is clearly he/ she is someone that doesn’t deserve you. You don’t need weaklings around you!
4. Apologies to yourself and tell yourself you will love yourself from that moment on. Because you deserve it! You are pretty, smart and you have an amazing power inside you. You can shine brightly without that person by your side. He/ she will just hinder your pass. You are a butterfly, you need to spread your wings and fly high. It is a wonderful world out there! Smile!

Betrayal can be conquered! You just need to find that little strength inside you and move on smiling and more powerful!


Wednesday, July 25, 2012

Are you ReVamped?

If it wasn't for my friend Luana this book would even fit on my list of to read...Revamped by Ada Adams. I just don't read vampires' books, not my style. But, then, I was hungry for reading and the cover looked pretty when my friend brought it to me.  I read a little the back cover plot, one name caught my eye and I said "Why not? If I don't like it I will just abandon it." 
Well, guess what? My first ever vampire book read cover to cover that kept me away from the computer in my spare time. I just couldn't let it out of my hands until I was done! Yes, it is that kind of book that keeps you excited all along to see what happens next.
What does this book have so special?
  1. It's a young adult, teenagers book. Or, you can read it any time if you feel the need for something simple and beautiful.
  2. It's about vampires...well, a twisted story about vampires that already enjoy and share the beauty and sour of our world. 
  3. It's an adventures book. You can imagine it as an action movie. Somehow it reminded me of police stories, if you ignore the vampires.
  4. It has an amazing combination of elements. I guess is what makes it unique. The author had the great imagination to combine different themes commercialized over the years and create a unique story. I'm pretty sure you will not find anywhere else the Blood Cola! 
  5.  This novel has everything: fiction and mystery, simple comedy, adventure, romance 
 Literally speaking the style is simple and clean, an easy read. It is not one of those books that will indulge you in philosophical ideas or you will try to decipher through the lines of metaphors the true sense of what the author had to say. The characters are all different and seen through the eyes of the heroine, a well painted character. It's a straight forward book, easy to predict in actions, but not in story. The storyline is unique. A young vampire on a mission and rediscovery of herself (sorry I like to keep the mystery - no picking into the storyline from my side). Faced paced and neat writing, an amazing combination of elements, good job Ada Adams.
Would I read the next book of the "predicted" series? In between heavy readings, why not?
So, just read it! It will get you!

ps. Forgot to say: the author has a plus for me - just because she is Canadian.


Thursday, May 24, 2012

To kill or not to kill...

 I’m not writing this article to open some wild traits in you...but just to test your spirit of survival.
So, to make it clear from the beginning - it`s about humans...against animals.
The majority of us are very found about animals...we like and we protect them. I`ve seen in my life also people that would be violent with animals for no specific reason, just to tease them. And I`ve also noticed that the majority will only hit or swear on an animal only and if the animal attacked them.
But how about killing?
Would you kill an animal?

Last night our friends brought us some fresh fish directly from the lake. I knew I had to clean and prepare them, but when I opened the bag and noticed that one of them was still alive it made me so very sick, that I ended up in the washroom throwing up. I felt weak. I like fish and meat in my plate, but I think when we have the plate in front of us we don't see the killing. After all, even cleaning and preparing the fish made me feel like a butcher, a criminal that had slaughtered to pieces a being and hidden the remains in a garbage bag. I had nightmares all night long. Poor weakling!
City life offers us a certain comfort- that you may not find in the country side or in other open regions.
Animals in the city are mostly seen as companions, pets- friends of the human being. And if they are un-owned they are protected by some law, so you won’t just go out and kill some animal- for fun, or just because you are angry.
You can kill animals for fun in a certain designated area - for hunting..., but that’s something else.
What animals can you find in the cities that may be un-owned?
Because I`m in Canada- I`ll start with ones more frequently seen around here: squirrels, raccoons, rabbits some different kind of birds- like pigeons, ducks, seagulls, or geese, and of course the ones we like less as skunks, rats, mice, snakes etc., plus the insects : mosquitoes, cockroaches, ants etc.
In some other countries you can find also dogs or cats, maybe swans…
Let`s say you find one or more of these animals hanging around your yard or your house: eating your food, disturbing your garden, messing up your things, making dirt and noise, interfering with the security of your home.
You can call an exterminator or you can do the job by your self. You can go to the store and look for products that will help you catch or kill the animal that interfered with your safety.
But are you ready to kill?
You realize that once you put a trap out there or poison the next thing you’ll find the animal struggling to survive and run or you`ll see its immobile dead body.
You realize that this animal is doing you harm in some way- but, is killing your best solution? Are you ready to face the image?
Ok, and now you’ll tell me that you’ll never let rats or cockroaches invade your privacy. So, it’s a yes- kill!

But, do you know that there are people that adopt rats? Not even mentioning those that eat them. Killing for eating let's face it - it is there more then a matter of survival, a habit, an evolution.
Are you ready to adopt your invader and feed and offer him space in a controlled manner? So, yes you may adopt a squirrel or a dog, or cat, a duck, and maybe even a mouse, snake or rat at the extreme. So - do not kill!
But, you have to be ready to make this adoption a long term friendship. If it’s a dog or a cat you can hope and find somebody else who would want them. But how about a house mice or a snake? Are you sure?
And if you are too afraid to kill would you catch your invader and let him free in a park or in the field? Are you sure that this is the best solution? If it’s still in the city it will creep to the most appropriate human shelter.
So, are you ready to kill or not?

Tuesday, May 22, 2012

Dreamy kiss


Let me, tell you, My last dream…

 Last night I`ve dreamed that you kissed me
And I let it be
Why where we there?
Drowning with madness
Love, hate, charity, fake!
The man from the dust
The woman from the sky
They bloom in the wind and they remain alive
Why?
Pickled orange, sour cream
A dream, a dream!
I would never kiss you!
And you will never kiss me!
You are not he
And I am not she!
Windy wind, sniffing fire
Burning hot, cast desire!
Words in words, eye in screen…
Floating wings
Worlds apart, words across…
“I think I’m about to do something stupid…,
Follow me!”
A kiss of fantastic, no flesh chemistry
Knitting the words in a frenetic desire
Love, love, making love!
Making love with the words you and me!

Tuesday, April 17, 2012

Accept life as it is or do the impossible

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I will start with this: “An optimist is a person that has insufficient information.”
This quote contradicts in a way what I would try to say later.

We live in a society that follow different rules…and one with tremendous power is money. If we think and over think everything; I mean absolutely everything on Earth can be translated to money. To the point that we come to realize that certain things are not right. On the other way you may wonder – how is this possible to live without money. Historically speaking money were a great invention that eased the consumption and trade in our human world. And then we started to quote everything in money. You may not do so yourself, but on a global level that is the trend. 

Someone told me a story about a sheik from Middle East related to him. They haven`t seen each other since they were kids, since my acquaintance family immigrated to North America. When they left their country both families were goat shepherds and don`t imagine a farm of goats but a few to bring the family some food. Now my acquaintance is a fairly normal person, working to sustain his family, while the other guy became a sheik. How come? That guy that didn’t have a chance to immigrate discovered an oil well, he sold it to the right people (that means the Americans) and became rich.
When my acquaintance got the chance and visited him, he was living in a huge, huge palace. My friend was saying he has never seen such opulence, and yet the level of culture and civilization was little changed from the goat shepherd. And he gave me a few examples related to the basic needs of eating, sleeping and hygiene. Anyhow, what surprised him the most was a special room – for money! “Imagine a hangar or a warehouse where one would deposit money! And I mean literally deposit money! Cash! There were probably billion of dollars there! What was bad…” my friend was saying “is that the room was full already and the money were deposited there for many years to the point that those at the base were rotted. When a new series of money were coming paid people would come in, take the decayed papers out and burn them!”

As you can see from this simple story money (as material) had no real value for those people. My friend was saying that on a small calculation a fair price for the barrel of oil would have been a maximum of 3 dollars. That amount was a fair amount to allow a family there to have a wealthy life style. Imagine the rest!
On the opposite side of the world my friend was saying that he has a hard time buying organic foods because they are way too expensive (bought with the same paper money that were rotting in his relative house).
But, I’m not going to talk about money! I’m going to talk about the choices in life.
Having as example the story above and these two types of societies…

What happens when the standards of these two societies collide into each other? If we take the best that is to be shared, that is also simple: 
You have access to natural, but you are restricted by money; you have access to comfort, but you are restricted by tradition. So, what do you do in this case? It is already clear to you what the best choices are, but they seem unachievable by the standards of the society you are living in. So, what do you do?

  Do you accept life as it is or you do the impossible? 

The most reasonable choice is to take things as they are – meaning following tradition, but giving you only a certain comfort; and following money, but giving you whatever that money can offer. (I left those two words in bold, so you can make the connection with the examples above - traditional habits and organic foods.)
The other thing that you can do is fight. A fight, no matter for what, is always taking you out of your comfort zone. A fight means that you can lose everything and win everything. And then it comes to what level you are willing to take this fight. Usually people fight till they start to lose, and when they start losing they give up!
It may seem now that the examples above are inappropriate; it is not a matter of life and death. So, if it is not a matter of life and death, why not fight? Every situation has its pro and cons, so when you do your situation’s pyramid see what weights more. On a career counseling session I have done a while back – they asked me to complete a form that helped identify my ideal career (all inclusive – location, field, position, money and benefits, environment, work time, colleagues etc).  At the end after two pages of utopic career, there was one simple question.

What are you willing to trade if you will get all this?

Think about this every time you chose to fight for something.
And I return to the first quote: “An optimist is a person that has insufficient information.” Are you boiling in optimism or in negativism…Or, what are you? That depends on the level of information you provide yourself sincerely every time you have to make a choice.

Monday, January 9, 2012

How do you go through unpleasant situations?

“Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you respond to it.” -Charles Swindoll

It happens that away from our control, we find ourselves in life in unpleasant situations. I call them external situations, because they are not primarily influenced by our actions, but have direct influence on our lives. Sometimes in life we have to do things that we don’t really enjoy, and we fight for them and give them the energy that otherwise we would have invested in something more pleasant for ourselves.
The thing that can help us go through those moments it’s the thought that “this is temporary”. And it is…It may an illness, it may be a survival job or jobless, it may be a separation from a loved one, it may be an unpleasant home. The problem is that whenever you are doing things that you don’t really like you give up more energy and at the end of the process you are kind of burnt out. The other problem is the fact that you will get depressed. You will get depressed because you are not doing what you want, you are not enjoying it, you are not where you want to be. How do you fight your negative thoughts and how do you go through that situation?

1. Propose a deadline
Before you make this situation into a habit, think for how long you will be in that situation – give yourself a margin: 3-5 months, 1 year, 2 years, 5 years…it may not be exact because it doesn’t depend on you, but at least you put a figure in your head to keep you going “It will all be over by next January”.  With this thought in mind you will concentrate on what you have to do and you will push the events to finish by that date.
2. Accept that situation
In dealing with an unpleasant situation people often go through these stages: shock and denial, pain and guilt, anger and bargaining. You can accept what’s happened, regardless of how you feel about it. You have no other choice for now, so better get used to the idea.
3. Take advantage of your actual situation
Every situation has also a nice point. Ok, it’s clear you don’t like being in that situation, but there must be a little something that can bust your pride. “It pays my bills”, “I’ll be healthier after this treatment”, “I can switch career and improve my skills”, “I’m learning something new”, “I get to meet new people”, “I have nice view from the office window” etc. It doesn’t have to be perfect. It has to be just those little nice things that will help you minimize mentally the dark spots.
Waiting is not fun, so stop waiting and get through it! Exploit the nice points. You know that a nice part is some how beneficial for you, not only mentally, but as experience. You will learn a new skill, how to handle a certain situation, how to do a certain job, how to handle crisis, how to address a disease or an unpleasant moment. There is always something to learn! Keep that in mind.
4. Find solutions
You know that this situation is temporary, so even while you struggle to go through, think of solutions. There are definitely different options to reduce your time in that situation, or to improve your comfort in that situation, or even to get you out of that situation. So, plan and act. It may be that you are not able to even start your plan for a certain period, but why not have a smooth transition when the time comes.
5. Reduce the complains list
I know it’s hard because it’s so obvious you don’t want to be in that situation, but keep it low. More you think about it, more you complain – more attention you give to that situation. Don’t let it take over your entire life. Thoughts about what you could have done to make things happen differently or what you would have done if you only realized before or what other people should have done to help you, are totally pointless. And you already know it’s not fair, but does it solve something if you say it? NO. Stop complaining to everybody you meet, stop reminding yourself what happened. Why don’t you talk more of your dreams then this unpleasant event? You will have an ally (see next point), but for all the other people you can find a different subject for the conversation.
6. Find an ally
Find a friend or two, a family member and that person will be your “blanket” during that period. I call it blanket because it has to be someone special…warm, understanding and supportive. When you are going through hard times you need people to understand and encourage you. You can cry on that shoulder that will shed your tears, you can talk to that person, complain, and get advice. And most important, that person should have the power to encourage you and not bring you more down then you are. If you feel more confident or more energized after talking to that person – you have the right ally to help you go through, if you feel discouraged – you have the wrong person.
7. Don’t forget what you really like and want
It’s clear that because you are in this situation, you are unable to offer more time to the things you really like. Offer yourself at least 2 hours per week to the things you really like, even in an indirect manner. Let’s say you can’t perform your favourite sport because you are injured. Just go on the web or on TV and watch or search some information related to that subject. You can find points you haven’t considered before and make notes from when you’ll be able to do that thing again. Talk to your family and friends. You can still keep an eye on what is going on out there even if you are not there.

On a different level then these points, to keep you in a proper shape to perform normally: eat healthy, do some sport (if you can), get the minimum amount of sleep.

It’s not easy, but you have the power to fight even in difficult times. You just need to find that energy inside you that guides you towards the light. And don’t forget you may feel powerless in a bad situation, but you will be stronger when it's over!

How do you keep your New Year Resolution?

 
Every time you move into another year you make some resolution(s)…you are thinking about what it didn’t work in the last year, and what you can improve.
Or not even that – you think at your new self facing new challenges. The thing is there is not a new you, it’s the old you striving to be better. And the thing is these resolutions you make at the beginning of the year, you keep them for about…a few months, and then your old habits are back in place.

But how do you create habits? Oh, it may sound strange but it is very simple. By repetition!
1. Why New Year?
When you want to bring some change in your life you don’t need a special day. You can pick any day of the year will work. Just plan it right “From this day on, I will…” If it helps you, yes, pick a special day like New Year, your birthday, your anniversary, your child birthday. Is just to have a date to relate to.
2. How realistic is your resolution?
Pick a goal that is achievable by your own strength. Choosing a concrete, achievable goal also helps you plan exactly how you are going to achieve your goal.
3. How many?
Pick one. The rest may be just tools to achieve that goal.
4. What action?
Start with small steps. If you overwhelm yourself from the beginning you will be tired and bored faster. It may be a slow start, but these small changes make it easier to stick to your new habits and increase the likelihood of long-term success.
5. How long to develop a good habit?
Those habits that you have developed over the years, do not expect a new one to form itself in a week. Do it daily and work on it continually. Make a schedule for your activities.
6. Same mistakes?
Is this your third year when you chose the same resolution? Before you do that, analyse what went wrong, why you couldn’t keep it or why you didn’t achieve your goal. Change your approach and address what went wrong.
7. Roadblocks?
Give me any situation in this world that has not encountered even a potential roadblock. The path toward your goal is not a straight one, and there are always going to be challenges. Even if you have to go through a situation that will put you out of track, prepare the “crisis plan” and get back to your project as soon as possible.
8. Anyone else?
Definitely you are not the only person in the world with that goal. Find your supporters, your fellow partners and work together in achieving your goal. They are also the ones that you will help you get back on track if you fail to follow the steps.
9. What’s your motivation?
You need to find your own motivation, not what other think. What’s your reason for doing and wanting this? Then, you can find inspirational sources to help you in the process.
10. Why do you give up?
You have lost your enthusiasm. There are other activities that appear. So…Renew your motivations! Find new inspirational sources. Review the schedule and reorganize, if necessary. Keep a journal or a board. It may sounds strange, but you can keep track of this. After x steps completed give yourself a reward. If you fail to complete x steps give your self a punishment ( something that you like – and will not do or have for x time)

Changing behaviour is not a fast and easy process. It takes time and dedication. And don’t forget to Repeat! Repeat! Repeat!