Probably not very well…It is very emotional to find out you have been cheated by the person you love and trust, but going through such a situation can be handled quite well if you have a strong character.
Most of people deal with this type of situation even for once in their life. But the way you put things back in their place depends of you. I’m writing this because one of my friends is going through such a period and is very depressed. Is hard to understand why is taking so long to get over…Well, is simple because even if you have a broken heart, you are still in love and you don’t want to let go! The problem is that once one finds you he/she has been cheated is not something expected, is a shock…and it is the shock that is hard to be dealt with. You don’t have a strategy in place for crisis.
All the situations are replayed, all the words analyzed, you feel weak because you have been played and abandoned. There are two expected outcomes here too:
A. the cheater is apologizing and wants to stay by your side
B. the cheater moves on with the other person.
But, what will happen next is up to you. I have a saying “Deal with every situation as it comes!”
1. Cry – yes it is normal to release your feelings in tears, is better than keep it inside. Seriously, it may affect your heart and brain. But, one very important rule, try not to cry in front of the cheater because he/she will either feel pity for you or disgust. Cry by yourself, with your best friend, with your mom or dad, your brother or sister (if you have a good relationship) - not your ex, an acquaintance or the cheater.
2. Eat. It is very important that even if you are depressed and down you take care of yourself. So, eat something a fruit or whatever you can digest.
3. Sleep! If you tire yourself too much, your brain won’t be able to function properly, you may lose contact with reality and even damage your body functions. If you can’t sleep, go to the pharmacy and ask for an over the counter pill to help you sleep. Try something that contains passiflora or valerian herbs – is natural and will not get an addiction to it if you take it for a few nights.
4. Do not commit suicide! This one is very important. Well, not because I am saying it, but because it won’t solve anything. You are not the only person in the world that has gone through this! Being cheated is not the end of the world, is an experience! It will make you stronger to go through this. The cheater is not the sun, the air, the stars, the water, your heart, your life (even if have called him/ her that way)! It is just a human being – there are billions other out there!
5. Accept the situation! After a good night sleep it is time to understand the situation. Whatever happened happened, is done deal and you can’t change it. You can only move on! First, it is not your fault! It will not help with anything if you blame yourself. It is not the cheater fault. It is not the third party fault! Blaming X or Y won’t help either. It happened because it was a conjuncture of situations and events. Each of you has played a role that brought that situation. Each party has its version of events. So it doesn’t help accusing yourself or others!
6. Analyse! Unfortunately, you still have to go through this part in order to go on. It is very important that you understand what happened and what you should do next. So, going back to A and B – you have to figure out what the cheater wants.
A. if the cheater is apologising and wants to be with you it is important that you have a clear understanding of the events. Do not listen only to his version of events! Ask around – friends, family – you need to get multiple opinions in order to make a good decision. If you have the opportunity, talk also to the third party. I know is hard, and you may be lied to, but you will have that opinion too. Now, put everything together. Take your time. You need to understand if it is worth or not to go on with that person! If the cheater has that in his blood he/she will do it again, if not, as I said – it was just a conjuncture – it may never happen again and you can live happily ever after. But, test him/ her. How? I clearly do not recommend asking someone to hit on him/ her. Do not forgive easily! It is clear you are affected and you need time. Be a little pickier then usual with things. Be colder! Tell them that moving on and still together, you are starting from scratch – so, definitely you guys need to rebuild your relation like dating for the first time. Giving yourself time and giving them time, you can go easier over what happened and fell in love again with that person. If he or she is serious about you – they will do anything to please you.
B. if the cheater moves on with the other person. Well, is clear they have made their decision – it was just hard for them to tell you the truth. Hanging on to such a person is useless. Don’t try to make them change their mind. Is time for war!
1. Improve yourself! The best revenge tactic is to be better than you were in the past. If you have to interact with the cheater again – show them how amazing you are and what they lost. You have to be more beautiful and more elegant then before. You have to be smarter. So, it’s time to rebuild yourself. Do not fake it! Make it come natural and in time. You will see that this will also bust your confidence and also attract new eyes on you.
2. Defeat! The cruelest tactic is to defeat you love opponent. You are in a situation when you ask yourself why that person was chosen. Is he/she better than you? It actually doesn’t matter! These types of thoughts are not helping you. That person may be way lower than you, it is just hard for you to see. You have to thank that person for recycling for you. He/ she is taking away the trash for you. You are clean now!
3. You don’t need that type of lover around you! The most important cure for a failed relation is to thing how horrible that person was. If he/ she did that to you and didn’t even have the courage to admit it – it is clearly he/ she is someone that doesn’t deserve you. You don’t need weaklings around you!
4. Apologies to yourself and tell yourself you will love yourself from that moment on. Because you deserve it! You are pretty, smart and you have an amazing power inside you. You can shine brightly without that person by your side. He/ she will just hinder your pass. You are a butterfly, you need to spread your wings and fly high. It is a wonderful world out there! Smile!
Betrayal can be conquered! You just need to find that little strength inside you and move on smiling and more powerful!
Most of people deal with this type of situation even for once in their life. But the way you put things back in their place depends of you. I’m writing this because one of my friends is going through such a period and is very depressed. Is hard to understand why is taking so long to get over…Well, is simple because even if you have a broken heart, you are still in love and you don’t want to let go! The problem is that once one finds you he/she has been cheated is not something expected, is a shock…and it is the shock that is hard to be dealt with. You don’t have a strategy in place for crisis.
All the situations are replayed, all the words analyzed, you feel weak because you have been played and abandoned. There are two expected outcomes here too:
A. the cheater is apologizing and wants to stay by your side
B. the cheater moves on with the other person.
But, what will happen next is up to you. I have a saying “Deal with every situation as it comes!”
1. Cry – yes it is normal to release your feelings in tears, is better than keep it inside. Seriously, it may affect your heart and brain. But, one very important rule, try not to cry in front of the cheater because he/she will either feel pity for you or disgust. Cry by yourself, with your best friend, with your mom or dad, your brother or sister (if you have a good relationship) - not your ex, an acquaintance or the cheater.
2. Eat. It is very important that even if you are depressed and down you take care of yourself. So, eat something a fruit or whatever you can digest.
3. Sleep! If you tire yourself too much, your brain won’t be able to function properly, you may lose contact with reality and even damage your body functions. If you can’t sleep, go to the pharmacy and ask for an over the counter pill to help you sleep. Try something that contains passiflora or valerian herbs – is natural and will not get an addiction to it if you take it for a few nights.
4. Do not commit suicide! This one is very important. Well, not because I am saying it, but because it won’t solve anything. You are not the only person in the world that has gone through this! Being cheated is not the end of the world, is an experience! It will make you stronger to go through this. The cheater is not the sun, the air, the stars, the water, your heart, your life (even if have called him/ her that way)! It is just a human being – there are billions other out there!
5. Accept the situation! After a good night sleep it is time to understand the situation. Whatever happened happened, is done deal and you can’t change it. You can only move on! First, it is not your fault! It will not help with anything if you blame yourself. It is not the cheater fault. It is not the third party fault! Blaming X or Y won’t help either. It happened because it was a conjuncture of situations and events. Each of you has played a role that brought that situation. Each party has its version of events. So it doesn’t help accusing yourself or others!
6. Analyse! Unfortunately, you still have to go through this part in order to go on. It is very important that you understand what happened and what you should do next. So, going back to A and B – you have to figure out what the cheater wants.
A. if the cheater is apologising and wants to be with you it is important that you have a clear understanding of the events. Do not listen only to his version of events! Ask around – friends, family – you need to get multiple opinions in order to make a good decision. If you have the opportunity, talk also to the third party. I know is hard, and you may be lied to, but you will have that opinion too. Now, put everything together. Take your time. You need to understand if it is worth or not to go on with that person! If the cheater has that in his blood he/she will do it again, if not, as I said – it was just a conjuncture – it may never happen again and you can live happily ever after. But, test him/ her. How? I clearly do not recommend asking someone to hit on him/ her. Do not forgive easily! It is clear you are affected and you need time. Be a little pickier then usual with things. Be colder! Tell them that moving on and still together, you are starting from scratch – so, definitely you guys need to rebuild your relation like dating for the first time. Giving yourself time and giving them time, you can go easier over what happened and fell in love again with that person. If he or she is serious about you – they will do anything to please you.
B. if the cheater moves on with the other person. Well, is clear they have made their decision – it was just hard for them to tell you the truth. Hanging on to such a person is useless. Don’t try to make them change their mind. Is time for war!
1. Improve yourself! The best revenge tactic is to be better than you were in the past. If you have to interact with the cheater again – show them how amazing you are and what they lost. You have to be more beautiful and more elegant then before. You have to be smarter. So, it’s time to rebuild yourself. Do not fake it! Make it come natural and in time. You will see that this will also bust your confidence and also attract new eyes on you.
2. Defeat! The cruelest tactic is to defeat you love opponent. You are in a situation when you ask yourself why that person was chosen. Is he/she better than you? It actually doesn’t matter! These types of thoughts are not helping you. That person may be way lower than you, it is just hard for you to see. You have to thank that person for recycling for you. He/ she is taking away the trash for you. You are clean now!
3. You don’t need that type of lover around you! The most important cure for a failed relation is to thing how horrible that person was. If he/ she did that to you and didn’t even have the courage to admit it – it is clearly he/ she is someone that doesn’t deserve you. You don’t need weaklings around you!
4. Apologies to yourself and tell yourself you will love yourself from that moment on. Because you deserve it! You are pretty, smart and you have an amazing power inside you. You can shine brightly without that person by your side. He/ she will just hinder your pass. You are a butterfly, you need to spread your wings and fly high. It is a wonderful world out there! Smile!
Betrayal can be conquered! You just need to find that little strength inside you and move on smiling and more powerful!
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