I’m getting in touch lately with a lot of people that I’ve lost contact over the years – do to this social media thing. It is interesting to see how these people that you used to play with, or that you went to school with in your first years have evolved and how they react to this re-connection. This made me think about a few things.
Is this something you really want –getting in touch with a bunch of old buddies and acquaintances? How comfortable are you with that?
When you grow up and you move on with our lives, you leave behind a lot of things, not only friends or family or things, but maybe also bad memories or embarrassing moments that in a way or another made you the one you are today. As I mentioned before, in a previous post – we all have our little secrets. Is not that you are going out there and expose them publicly…or that your long distant friends will start digging these moments…Or maybe is just a picture or an embarrassing memory…Or maybe you feel ashamed of what you have become.
What are the first things that you look at when you get back in touch with these people…
1. Where do they live?
2. What schools have they attended?
3. What is their profession?
4. Are they married or single?
5. Have they changed physically a lot?
And then what do you do? You look at yourself and start to compare. You remember the dreams or ideas that you shared with that person, the memories…It’s like you are giving points and see who of you two “made it” better in life. Are you serious about this?
Aren’t you supposed to be just happy you met an old friend? Not only this, but you may start juggling about in complains that you are not where you should be because this and that... And then you don’t even want to get into discussions with that person because you feel uncomfortable. You may just keep them in your list or even delete them and hide forever in your depressive shell.
Of course, there is an opposite of this – You realize fast enough that you “made it” in life and you start bragging about yourself to the point that you become disgraceful to the other person. Or…you just can’t get it how people still can feel happy if they “didn’t make it” in life.
Ok, let’s clear the waters now!
First, people change – one may have been wick and now is stronger, one may have been stronger and now looks wicker, even their ideas and ideals in life change.
Second – you have no clue what the other person has been through with all the details for all those 15-20 years you lost contact with them just by answering 5 questions. Or the other person doesn’t know what you have been through.
Third – your “made it” may not be the same with their “made it”, even if at a certain point maybe your ideas were the same.
Maybe you won’t have the same relation as before, it may be worst or better; maybe even now – that you have reconnected you are not available for them all the time. So, let the enmity aside and be happy you have the chance to even be again in touch with lots of people that passed through your life…and they are just a click away for a simple polite and smiling “How are you? It’s so nice to have some news about you!”
Is this something you really want –getting in touch with a bunch of old buddies and acquaintances? How comfortable are you with that?
When you grow up and you move on with our lives, you leave behind a lot of things, not only friends or family or things, but maybe also bad memories or embarrassing moments that in a way or another made you the one you are today. As I mentioned before, in a previous post – we all have our little secrets. Is not that you are going out there and expose them publicly…or that your long distant friends will start digging these moments…Or maybe is just a picture or an embarrassing memory…Or maybe you feel ashamed of what you have become.
What are the first things that you look at when you get back in touch with these people…
1. Where do they live?
2. What schools have they attended?
3. What is their profession?
4. Are they married or single?
5. Have they changed physically a lot?
And then what do you do? You look at yourself and start to compare. You remember the dreams or ideas that you shared with that person, the memories…It’s like you are giving points and see who of you two “made it” better in life. Are you serious about this?
Aren’t you supposed to be just happy you met an old friend? Not only this, but you may start juggling about in complains that you are not where you should be because this and that... And then you don’t even want to get into discussions with that person because you feel uncomfortable. You may just keep them in your list or even delete them and hide forever in your depressive shell.
Of course, there is an opposite of this – You realize fast enough that you “made it” in life and you start bragging about yourself to the point that you become disgraceful to the other person. Or…you just can’t get it how people still can feel happy if they “didn’t make it” in life.
Ok, let’s clear the waters now!
First, people change – one may have been wick and now is stronger, one may have been stronger and now looks wicker, even their ideas and ideals in life change.
Second – you have no clue what the other person has been through with all the details for all those 15-20 years you lost contact with them just by answering 5 questions. Or the other person doesn’t know what you have been through.
Third – your “made it” may not be the same with their “made it”, even if at a certain point maybe your ideas were the same.
Maybe you won’t have the same relation as before, it may be worst or better; maybe even now – that you have reconnected you are not available for them all the time. So, let the enmity aside and be happy you have the chance to even be again in touch with lots of people that passed through your life…and they are just a click away for a simple polite and smiling “How are you? It’s so nice to have some news about you!”
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