I woke up one day - and this subject was floating into my head, but I just couldn’t link it to anything. So, here it goes...friendship debate. I would say this is related to the previous post - When can I call you my friend? (even if they are written in the opposite order than publishing - they link)
Some of us we make friends easily, some of us hardly. Some of us we invest a lot in the relations around us, some of us we don’t care. And some of us we are just lonesome, with no friends around.
There are people, who tend to have an army of friends, and they can count only on a few of them- and they are those that have only a few friends- and they call them the best.
Why do we need friends?
Simply because we are humans, we need to socialize, interact, exchange ideas and get all sort of support from those that we call friends.
Friends don’t need necessarily to be completely compatible with a person- just a common trait or a common interest can be enough to create a friendship. Some friends are situational - that means you only make contact as long as a certain situation goes a long.
When do you start calling someone a friend?We can make acquaintances at every corner of the street and in every situation, but friends are something more, involving a deeper feeling of synergy.
As Wikipedia states "Friendship is mutually cooperative and supportive behavior between two or more people."Friendship involves empathy, affection, respect, loyalty, trust, understanding, reliability, reciprocity.
So when does a friend stop being your friend?Most probably when of the things mentioned above cease to manifest.
A friendship may stop because the interaction is no longer at the same level, because of the distance and because the lack of contact or simply because one person has disappointed the other in some way.Losing a friend is something that we miss in our day to day life. And being disappointed by a friend it’s even a stronger feeling that influences our behavior inconstantly in our future relations.
There are things that "friends" do that may seem unforgivable. And even if time heals the suffering, it’s hard to trust that person again at the same level.
Some people are strong in their decisions and they never talk to that person again. Some, they just move on and put that friend in the list of acquaintances.
In our society, unfortunately people don’t rely anymore that much in their friends. Friends- are usually casual- to share a drink or a chat. Some times a mutual interest is involved. "You are my friend because you play very well tennis and I’m just learning, so I need you around. I am your friend because I’m very good at maths and I can help you with your exams" When this interaction ceases - "goodbye friendship!"
Lucky some friends are just always there, for life- no matter what you need or they need from you.
Did you disappoint some friend recently? Or someone disappointed you? Is there a friend you haven’t spoke in a long time?
I like this proverb "A friend in need it's a friend indeed", so keep that in mind when you think at the friendship level. But, think of your friends even if you don`t need them or they don`t need you. A thought of peace or joy is always a welcome smile.
There are people, who tend to have an army of friends, and they can count only on a few of them- and they are those that have only a few friends- and they call them the best.
Why do we need friends?Simply because we are humans, we need to socialize, interact, exchange ideas and get all sort of support from those that we call friends.
Friends don’t need necessarily to be completely compatible with a person- just a common trait or a common interest can be enough to create a friendship. Some friends are situational - that means you only make contact as long as a certain situation goes a long.
When do you start calling someone a friend?We can make acquaintances at every corner of the street and in every situation, but friends are something more, involving a deeper feeling of synergy.
As Wikipedia states "Friendship is mutually cooperative and supportive behavior between two or more people."Friendship involves empathy, affection, respect, loyalty, trust, understanding, reliability, reciprocity.
So when does a friend stop being your friend?Most probably when of the things mentioned above cease to manifest.
A friendship may stop because the interaction is no longer at the same level, because of the distance and because the lack of contact or simply because one person has disappointed the other in some way.Losing a friend is something that we miss in our day to day life. And being disappointed by a friend it’s even a stronger feeling that influences our behavior inconstantly in our future relations.
There are things that "friends" do that may seem unforgivable. And even if time heals the suffering, it’s hard to trust that person again at the same level.Some people are strong in their decisions and they never talk to that person again. Some, they just move on and put that friend in the list of acquaintances.
In our society, unfortunately people don’t rely anymore that much in their friends. Friends- are usually casual- to share a drink or a chat. Some times a mutual interest is involved. "You are my friend because you play very well tennis and I’m just learning, so I need you around. I am your friend because I’m very good at maths and I can help you with your exams" When this interaction ceases - "goodbye friendship!"
Lucky some friends are just always there, for life- no matter what you need or they need from you.
Did you disappoint some friend recently? Or someone disappointed you? Is there a friend you haven’t spoke in a long time?
I like this proverb "A friend in need it's a friend indeed", so keep that in mind when you think at the friendship level. But, think of your friends even if you don`t need them or they don`t need you. A thought of peace or joy is always a welcome smile.
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