The violence of love

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Love is such a complex subject... yet, I only want to touch one part this time.We all have somehow an amazing feeling of love inside of us for someone- even if it is a parental, brotherhood, friendly or inter-sexual love.
The reverse...someone is having the same amazing feeling towards us. Love should be cherished, respectful and bringing joy - to both sides, of course. That`s the thing about love- it requires two persons- the sender and the receiver. It may not be reciprocal - but it requires a certain agreement between parts. You may not answer the same way to that feeling – But…
When does love start to bother you? To annoy you? Or even to hurt you?

How long are going to let those feelings of yours or his/hers to interfere with your own values and make you suffer?
Sometimes you don`t even realize that you are suffering you are just frustrated.
Love should be supportive and releasing from any stress. The reverse is when love becomes violent.
And you don`t want to interfere with the situation because the base is still love.
You deny yourself many things just to please the other person. You submit yourself to a lot of moral pressure just because you are too scared to push your attacker away or just because you don`t realize it.
Shall I give you some examples?

How many times did your parents told you they don`t want you to start a band because is just a silly hobby that will never bring you anywhere even if you adore music and even if you got some talent. Moreover, you ended up making spares and having a dusted guitar in your room.
You still don`t wear that amazing t-shirt you adore when you meet with your friend J. because she said to your face "this is the ugliest thing i`ve ever seen!" - Yap, that`s not a very strong example.
How about that time when you renounced to take the boxing courses because at that hour your boyfriend/girlfriend was free and wanted to spend that time with you, plus he/she finds boxing too aggressive.
How about when jealousy sticks around? How about when you got bruises on your face and other scars, from the other person? Did you receive flowers, tears and promises?
Did you move on or did you forgive and forget?
The problem is that we all deal with this ugly staff at a certain level.
Are we strong enough to eliminate the problem or we are living with it? There are many associations that fight to encourage you to stop being a victim of violent love- physically and morally. However, are you ready for the change?
Are you ready to accept that love may be hurtful? Are you ready to take distance? Are you ready to admit that this love isn`t any good for your own peace? What do you do in this case?
If you are a child, or a person that can`t take care of herself- call an association for help! If you are on your own feet, it comes just to a personal decision. Communication may be a solution, third part help may be another. Acceptance?! However, think also of the consequences of your choice – not for a day or two- but for a longer period.